Many of you probably noticed that in the 2 year span from 2023-2025, I had not been doing the things that I have actively done in the past. Touring, fan sites, webcam/ Sextpanther/ Niteflirt and my overall online presence had either drastically been cut down, or had been non-existent. When pro Mistresses become quieter or stop doing things entirely, there is an automatic assumption that she is taking a break from this career or on her way to quitting. This is not always the case! Often the truth is that she is still very busy with other things in her life, and has to stop spinning a few of the many plates she regularly spins.
It's so difficult to partake in every single outlet there is for a dominatrix. Each one is endlessly time-consuming and all must be frequently intensely tended to, or they tend to fail. There comes a point where its a bit much and I have to make choices to pause things that I no longer had time for, with the hope of getting back to those things at a later date, or think about if I should go back to spinning one of those many plates at all. What's harder is that we almost can never hire an assistant to help with this type of work on the back-end, due to many factors which make it impossible, that I won't get into here. We are often left juggling this on our own, leaving us with little to no free time, as we dedicate all of our time to our craft.
What has kept me so busy? What's new?
While my online dominatrix outlets had paused or slowed, live appointments were busier than ever and I had done some incredible appointments that I will never forget, some with new people who I had recently started playing with. Multiple-day servitude experiences at the new estate were filled with so many amazing kinky scenes and wonderful connections.
The new event estate repairs had taken up a lot of my free time, and it was overall a larger project than anticipated. So much so, I thought it would break me at one point. Repairs are now almost finished at the new estate. We held a sissy weekend and an Indomitus at the new estate, both were incredible events. Indomitus was outstanding and everyone who had attended said it was the best event we ever had.
Last year, we had Den of the Divine in NY, which had been such a beautiful event in a gorgeous location. The weather blessed us with some beautiful snow, which turned the outside into a wonderland, and while it didn't last more than a couple of days (typical NY Winter), it was magical.
 The dungeon kitchen unfortunately still has not gotten done. Multiple attempts have been postponed due to very important situations that took priority in the lives of my contractor friends. Late January 2025 are the new dates.
I downsized the dungeon, getting rid of all of the items that took up space, but didn't have practical use and rearranged some things. It's been hard to downsize from 2,700 square feet, but necessary for my own organization and overall sanity. The dungeon is in the same space just takes up less of it. The rest of the dungeon is morphing into a comfortable overnight stay space with more domestic living space, since I sometimes spend days here at a time being served, or host visiting Mistresses.
I've been taking more time for myself to just "be" and felt that I needed that, since my career has been a whirlwind of travel, hard work along with all of the new estate repairs. Days where I play a game, binge a TV show, or just relax in between the live appointments. In this pausing, I have reflected much on my career so far and what I'd like to have happen in this new future I've been re-writing since the loss of my partner.
2025 will not bring semi-retirement as I had once planned, but it will bring changes in offerings and you'll learn of them soon. It will also at some point mean a return to my fan sites but in a different way than before, which you'll also learn about soon enough.
I will be working on some passionate bdsm projects, launching events, and still offering appointments. If you have yet to see me, I suggest getting in soon because I'm less and less willing to offer appointments to those who have no references.
Stay tuned for exciting things in 2025.